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the incarnation of a lost person — June 5, 2015

the incarnation of a lost person

This is a normal tendency of our brain and heart that they do not work in the mutual agreement of each other. Sometimes where our heart goes, the mind opposes it and where the mind want to go the heart opposes. This brings a new person in yourself that opposes all the activity that you want to pursue, the thought that you want to work on. This happens when you feel like why your every thought is getting negative, thinking just the opposite of everything.

For instance, if I have been given a task that I have not to bring a particular thought for the next one minute but I would not be able to do that because for the next one minute I would be restricting my mind to stop thinking that particular thing for one minute and in this I would be thinking about that particular thing only. That’s a normal tendency.

Often, there would be thoughts that would be not in your favor, that will be always contradicting you and sometimes they completely become senseless. Our mind works in a mutual relationship with the situation, if situation is calm it works calmly but if it’s little bit shaky our brain would work in the opposite direction doing trick with us all the time. Our mind and heart just uses the situation and condition to prove us wrong, to send us in the wrong direction and to give up. It’s like there’s always a person that thinks the opposite of whatever is our requirement, it always think what we shouldn’t do and it always proves you wrong. It lowers the confidence level in you and always forces you to lose confidence, feel shy where you shouldn’t, think negative where you should not, forces you to do anger where calmness is needed.

That’s not me and that’s not us. I mean nobody is like that. Everybody knows what he or she wants and everybody knows the right thing to do but is thinking and doing the opposite of that. why?

Well, I think here I should give a name to that and it’s not that it has been always in us, we are responsible for that person inside us. We have given birth to that inside us. We are responsible for that person and we have given him or her a way to go ahead, to carry on and to do whatever he or she want irrespective of what we want or what we think. We have given it a way to let us doubt on every particular task we do and every particular decision we take.

So, what’s the solution for that one?

Well, I think since we are the one who have given that person let take place in us and we are the one who are letting it do its will. So, I think if we are keeping a negative person or whatever we can say that proves us wrong and does the wrong think, then we should keep another person in us who will do the right thing, who knows what is right and one who is capable of making this negative person understand that what’s the right thing to do. In other word we should virtually create a one more person who is capable of doing the right thing. If this negative person says us no “you don’t look good” then this new person says “you look awesome”. If this negative person says “this is the wrong decision” then this new person says “no, this is the right one” and this negative person says “it’s impossible” then this new person says “it will be done”. It’s the incarnation of that person which was in you, always but was somewhere lost and now he is back because you have brought it back.

learning from the darkest times — June 1, 2015

learning from the darkest times

Often, in the darkest hour ,the time when we are going through it, facing the harsh challenges of life , we sometimes encounters the positive outcome, an idea and the thoughts which probably would never had come across our mind if we had not gone through the situations.

It’s not that they can be only encountered when the life darkest hours comes and when our soul is threatened to its extent but some experiences, which are few also makes them cross our mind. Life can take any shape and can go in any direction. You may lose sometime and you may succeed some time but what is the thing that we need to uphold is the positive outcomes and the things we need to get ready for the next time.

Even when we feel like we are not loving the particular experience we need to learn a methodology of shifting our mentality in the favor of the experience. We need to see the positive outcome of the experience and should grab the opportunity of learning something positive out of it. in this way we would never take anything like a bad experience in life because what we had was an opportunity that taught us something new, something we would have never understood if we had not gone through it and also it prepared us for the worst situation. It made us come more stronger than we are and it made us more skilled. It gave an overview and made us at ease for the next time.

What makes us always happy and always gives an opportunity of learning is to take the bad experiences of your life as a learning, locate the positive outcome and an opportunity to meet the thoughts which would have never crossed your mind.

that’s the reason i don’t feel there is anything that we should regret of, anything we should feel bad for, everything is a new learning, a new experience and it’s all part of life.

never forget the fun! — May 30, 2015

never forget the fun!

Often, when we do any task or any activity that are related to our goal in a sort of way, we make a mistake and that is we start taking the task so seriously and in a challenging way that we forget to keep the fun part into it.

Now, what’s the fun part behind anything or any sort of activity and why does it matter?

Remember, we always choose a work or do any activity because we like doing it and that’s right, we do what we like but in the long run what we lack is that we fail to keep a track of that and we fail to remember what excite us to choose that work. In short, we exclude the fun part out of it and due to which it often seems boring and it starts to take an extra effort which comes to that work like a current flow through a resistor. I mean, it sort of resists that natural effort which used to initially come when we started.

What we do is we exclude the fun part, the learning part out of any long term task and that decreases our productivity and learning, that certainly would have been better if we remember why we started and we need to keep a track of fun and the learning part in it.

There are many variations that we can bring in our activity to get that fun part into any task since chances are always there that we might lose it somewhere and what we can do is we can always change our ways. We can bring variations into it and there are always spaces for new innovative ideas. What we need to see is that we are really enjoying what we are doing and we are learning from it.

We all start because we liked what we do but keeping that throughout the particular activity is more important for more effective and positive results. This will give a better understanding and a better learning of the work or any activity you just did. This reduces the hard work needed for a particular task or I can say it no longer seems hard work instead it seems like learning and also it gives a desired result.

So, don’t forget the fun part behind any task.

what it actually takes to stand out in crowd? — May 27, 2015

what it actually takes to stand out in crowd?

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I had a kind of thinking or I should say a misconception, which now I think I shouldn’t had. That misconception was that I used to think that my thinking, my philosophies and my ideas are slightly different than others. I used to believe that I don’t think like others, my thoughts are different and I am somewhere more mature in ideas.

But, now I know how much immature I was. How much immature my ideas were and I wonder sometimes why I used to think like that. Not only in the case of thoughts and ideas but also in many aspects. I don’t know others think like this way or not but certainly I used to. Now, I knew that, those thoughts were a mistake because those restricted the working capacity in me. Those thoughts bounded me with a limit.

What this exactly means is that, probably because of those ideas and misconceptions I never worked seriously, as I should. Actually, those thinking and ideas also had some positive points I must say. What they inculcate in me was the confidence level to some good extent, positivity that whatever would happen, that would be good for me and I was sure and confident about any task that I can surely do this. Yeah, that were good points, I had a comparatively good confidence, always. That was good! Wasn’t that? But, it had a lot of negative points which I can certainly point out now. That confidence and that believe was there in me that I am best, I am good decreased the working capacity and the feeling of the necessity that I should work more on myself for anything, I should work for the perfection because I still might fall short of this never came in my mind. Why? Why did these feelings never occur to me? The reason was the unmeasured confidence level in me, my thoughts and in my heart.  Well, these type of thinking might also have an ancestor thinking that has pave its way to these kind of thinking but whatever that was, that was not good in this case and for me, certainly not.

Now, I am glad that I don’t have that kind of feeling anymore, because now I don’t feel confident without having sure that I have done enough work on myself, I have work on all the directions and on all the topic. Now I know the competition and I know that it takes a lot of effort to stand out. This always remind that I am no different than anybody, I am the same guy like others, I do have the same thinking and I can do no different than others if I hadn’t work on myself enough or more than others.

Now, I know that what actually, creates a difference and separates you from the crowd is the work you had put in yourself, your efforts in you. Working hard will certainly give rise to a new confidence level in you but that confidence level would be a measured confidence level. A confidence level because you know that you had worked hard enough, you had perspire yourself more than others and you certainly deserve to stand out in the crowd not because you are gifted with miraculous thoughts and positivity in you but because you have worked hard enough for that.

What I want to clarify here is no doubt you need to have a good confidence and the feeling that you can really standout in the crowd but never let that confidence to limit your hard work and efforts to a certain level because everybody is same like you and everybody has got their own thinking and philosophies in their mind. “What will create a difference is the hard work you had put in yourself. “

how to love everybody: a vision for a better world — May 24, 2015

how to love everybody: a vision for a better world

I was having a deep thinking for some time on the topic that why do we hate others , why do we pick fights and what really makes us hate others. Then I got inside it further, I started thinking about myself that do I really hate somebody or do I really wanted to hate anybody in this world. I could think of nobody but why. What makes me so soft hearted that I don’t want to hate anybody or I don’t want to pick fight with anybody. Then what makes anybody to hate somebody so much. Why war happened and what was the reason for those killings. This takes me inside a deeper concept. I thought about my childhood and the surrounding in which I have lived and the qualities and thinking I have inbuilt in myself. Alright, I have been treated right and I have been living my life to a satisfaction level and probably that’s why I don’t have a revenge or hating kind of mindset.  I could have been a different person, I could have a rude temperament or hating kind of view but I don’t have. I am soft hearted and don’t want to pick a fight or hate somebody. It’s not that I am weak or I think I don’t have the capacity to hate anybody or to fight anybody or to have a rude kind of behavior with anybody. What actually changed my outlook was the quality thinking and the surrounding I lived in. This might or might not change but what I actually feels right now is to have a good thinking and good behavior for everybody around.  I could have been a person with a different perspective for the society around and I could have been rude to others if my surrounding and the thinking would have been different. I would have been a different if my situation would have been different and if I had gone through some harsh phase in my life.

Then the thinking got more deeper. What actually have happened if I was a person with different kind of mindset, obviously,  I would not have been writing this blog post on loving others, I would have been different. I would have hated others and probably have expected the same from others. It’s like Sir Newton’s third law to every reaction there is an equal and opposite reaction. So what could have changed me if I was a rude, hatred and aggressive to others. The answer is pretty much obvious “love”. Probably I would have changed myself and my perception would have changed even if I wouldn’t have been a good, cool minded and soft hearted person. That love might have changed me.

A person perception towards world could be soft or hard but if they would get the right treatment afterwards that could change them. I think Loving and treating a person who didn’t give you the expected reaction is reasonable. Because, you could have been in the same position and would have gone through the same situation as the person in front of you that didn’t show the expected reaction. He is already suffering as he  has  already lacked the right situation, surrounding and the quality thinking that you are lucky to have. So, I think loving and treating the opposite nature the right way is also reasonable somewhere.  I think If I do have the quality thinking and the guts to challenge my own capacity of spreading the love, we all could, we all could change our thinking to a better world.